July 2008


I have very little time to post as I should have left this adorable little library that I’m sitting in at least half an hour ago (Lucy and Will might not mind an extra 30 minutes at “Wendy’s Cow House,” but Wendy might be going a bit over the edge) PLUS there’s a huge room of used books that I want to browse quickly before I leave.

Since it has come to my attention, however, that there are actually people reading this blog (woo-hoo!), I did want to let you all know that I’ve come down off the ledge a bit since my last post. Not entirely, as those who happened to be privy to my rant at the Lobster Shanty (or Pound or Claw, whatever place it actually was) know firsthand. Enough, though, that I wanted to give a shout-out and say that I’m feeling a bit more relaxed than I did two weeks ago, despite another 10 days of email piling up. Out of the 600 that came in over the last week, though, only 200 need to be dealt with (yay!) and only about 10 of those were urgent. They did take most of the last four hours, but done they are. Now I’m off to used books, Wendy’s Cow House, Saratoga, and then Aitana and Cathy and Jeff! Maybe I’ll even be able to post again sometime this week. Until then…

After not being able to check email since Sunday night, I finally logged on this afternoon around 5. Big mistake. I was, of course, over capacity. As I cleared out emails others arrived, each seemingly more urgent than the one before. And, of course, some of those emails were indicating that I now have meetings scheduled tomorrow at 9, at 10, at 11 AND 11:30, at 12:30, and at 2. Note, all of these are likely to run longer than an hour and therefore completely overlap. Also note, there isn’t actually time to breathe in there, much less eat, think, or do other necessary things to be even somewhat prepared for said meetings. Among those necessary things would be staying on top of email in order not to let it fill up again, but that will be a physical impossibility. And, of course, by the time I reach 3:30 and the end of the meetings, there will no doubt be other urgent things that must be dealt with which will preclude my being able to handle any of the less-than-urgent matters before they actually become so.

I would ordinarily try to deal with the excess at night, but that isn’t possible tomorrow as I have plans. Which, by the way, I would like to enjoy doing but am afraid I will just be overly stressed. With Thursday being equally booked up meeting-wise, I literally have about two hours on Thursday night to do regular maintenance things like, say, wash the now moldy dishes in the sink or put away laundry. Forget actually mentally or physically preparing for another two weeks (or maybe not, plans are still up in the air) away. Oh right, or actually, like, eating or having civil conversation.

I really tried to tell myself that I could just enjoy the way this summer is working out. Actually take advantage of some weeks away and, God forbid, relax.

O.k. I’m just trying to breathe right now. My heart is racing too much to even consider going to bed right now. Maybe I’ll try and clean out all of those ridiculously large PSF emails so that I can at least not worry about the inbox constantly filling.

I’m sitting here in the Courtyard Marriott on an interlude from George’s wedding activities. It’s quite odd to be in a hotel on the Cape rather than at Grandma’s House or The Retreat. Not, however, bad.

Lucy and Will were quite funny on the way here, Will saying that he liked hotels because that’s where they brought you the food and you could eat it on the bed. (“To the tune of $100 for bad pancakes,” Kelley of course added.) Lucy took no time in getting to the work of scoping out the room service menu which, in this case, is actually quite slim since it is only Domino’s pizza from 11 a.m. through, well, I’m not sure since Lucy has appropriated the detailed list. For most people (like, again, Kelley) this would be an awful transpiring of events. For Lucy, however, who has inherited my odd love for Domino’s pizza, it is the cherry on top. Thus the note I awoke to this morning:

Dear Mom,

I know it is still morning, but for dinner I want a small crunchy thin crust cheese pizza and side of chicken “kickers.” [quotations hers]

Lucy

In the words of David Letterman: I’m not making this stuff up.

Alas, for dinner we are being treated to a barbeque (how the heck do you spell that??? My spell check is saying it’s wrong, but I can’t think of what else it would be) at the compound and therefore will have to forego our Domino’s room service. Now, as much as I am a fan of Domino’s, I’m a fan of big family bbq’s even more.

I’m not entirely positive that Lucy is feeling the same way, but I’m thinking at the moment she is. The thing about being with George’s family is that there are a billion (or maybe a billion and two) kids around at any given time. In addition to the Churchill kids (six of them, between George, Elly, and Jon and their respective partners [and ex-partners, I suppose]), there are various cousins and, in this iteration, the children of all the wedding party. Actually tonight, there are probably even more coming in since it’s wedding guests as well. Last night, while the adults were at the rehearsal dinner, Betsy hired a coordinator plus four camp counselors to run childcare for the 25 kids. Lucy and Will were in heaven.

Most of the kids went their separate ways today, although we were lucky enough to spend the majority of the day with Daron, Ted, Leo (Ted and Elly’s 5-yr-old) and Julian (George’s 5 yr-old). Part of that was spent hanging out on the semi-private beach, part of it sailing to and from Egg Island with George W. (Refer to title of this blog.)

Will, for as much as he really doesn’t like venturing out into the water (the red seaweed paralyzed him — not literally, of course, although you would wonder if you saw him frozen in place this afternoon), absolutely LOVES being out on boats. And it’s pretty hard to tear Lucy away from the beach, although getting her onto the sailboat wasn’t exactly hard. Before we went out to the sailboat, George W. took all the kids puttering around in the Zodiac (or, according to Will’s not entirely accurate memory of the description in the car ride down, the “maniac”) for a while, leaving Daron, Jon, Kelley and I to just hang out on the beach. And this is why it’s really hard to return to real life after vacations.

One of the other really nice things was that I felt very little guilt leaving at around 4 to come back to the hotel and walk on the treadmill, shower, check email, and write this post. The kids probably haven’t even noticed I’m not there, and although Kelley has, it may only be because he needs me to bring Will a short-sleeved shirt when I return for the BBQ. (And I don’t even feel too much guilt there because there are so many 5-yr-old boys around that there’s no chance there won’t be an extra shirt lying around if it turns out it’s really desperately needed.)

That said, I am pushing it, so I really should go. Perhaps I will be able to get back on later tonight and write about what life is like for the other half. No, I’m not talking about those lucky enough to spend their days leisurely beach-going and sailing. I’m talking instead about that class of folks that I don’t think much about when it comes to the lives they have to lead: husbands.

Until later…

While cleaning up Lucy’s bag of papers from her desk at school, I came across her poetry notebook and must share. (Full disclosure: spelling has been corrected):

MY FAMILY

I have a mom. I have a dad.
A little brother, too. My mom is
nice. My dad is nice, too. My little
brother is annoying. He’s lovable, too.
He’s cute. He has a thousand cars.
Maybe a thousand and two. My mom
and dad are very good cooks. I
am good, too.

And from her writing notebook:

11/29/07

Dear Grandma,

Thank you for comforting me when my brother
got to watch two TV shows in a row. You gave
me a hug and comfort me. You made my
expression change from mad and sad to happy.

Love, Lucy